Not a day goes by that I don’t hear from at least five people how tired; how exhausted they are; how floored they are after a day’s work, school or varsity life. Everyone is asking for more hours in a day, as if time would magically help us do the things we didn’t get to in the allocated time.
I’m guilty of this more than others, most of the time.
I was rambling on the phone earlier on with my girlfriend, giving her the list of things I have to get to the next couple weeks, and how I don’t get time to do me and the things I WANT to and not HAVE to do; how I haven’t spent a night at home before 9pm the last three weeks. And I try justifying it by saying that it’s only for now; that it will get better. But that’s what all busy and exhausted people make the people in their lives, including themselves, believe.
I understand that 21st century life is fast-paced and often we can’t help but overwork ourselves in order to keep up with the demands, but most of the time, it’s the things and people we value most that gets the backseat when it comes to how we spend our time.
And our culture is teaching us to glorify exhaustion.
We are making exhaustion a status symbol.
It’s almost like you have to have 3 or 4 projects running or working 12-hour days or run from meeting to meeting or live on energy drinks, to be fully accepted as a 21st century adult.
When people ask you how you’re doing, it has to be something like, “tired, but good”, or “busy, but good”, or “keeping head “…otherwise you’re not doing it right. It sure is a way of showing our dedication to our work but it can also be a way of trying to emphasise our significance.
We unknowingly brag about how ‘busy’ we are.
We are proud of how exhausted we are, and never makes time for family, friends, God. Because these are the areas of our lives that always suffer when we are too busy and too exhausted.
Rob Bell says, “Being busy is a drug that a lot of people are addicted to”.
Andy Stanley says we will always be exhausted and busy, and exhausted and busy when we try to raise our standard of living instead of our quality of life. We will never get enough hours in the day because we will never make enough money. But when we value family and relationships and intimate connections, we will stop working and go home as soon as its clock-out time.
While I was going on about my exhaustion and busyness with my girlfriend, she said to me, “you know you can always say no to some things, right?”
It’s that simple actually.
If we REALLY value our overall well-being; our relationships; our health; our connection with God, we would simply say no to some things that’s trying to push us away from them.
We would say no to the trends.
Peace to you.